A friend recently posted on FB that she hates judgemental people. It brought to mind something I’d heard sometime ago – the minute you label someone as being judgemental, you are being exactly the same. Yes, I’m as guilty as the next person of being judgemental. I think we all are. We all have our values that we live by, and when someone does something that doesn’t sit right with our particular values, we can become judgemental.
I’ve said I hate judgemental people in the past. Perhaps I should say I don’t like being judged, thus criticising the act rather than the person, and thereby defending myself. Wonder if I’ll remember to do that next time, I hope so, but it’ll mean changing a behaviour pattern. Will I remember in the heat of the moment!
Another judgemental label I’ve used in the past, but try to avoid now is, ‘control freak’. There has to be a certain amount of, ‘control freak’ in all of us. Without it, we’d be total losers, (and there’s another judgement label). Yes, I recognise some people are easily controlled, thus letting someone’s desire to control their own destiny infringe on someone else’s rights. But is that the fault of the the controller, or the controllee. And is it a problem anyway. If someone’s happily rolling through life, seemingly in the clutches of a ‘control freak’, perhaps that person is just happy not to have to make to many decisions.
Labelling someone a control freak can be a way if actually trying to force a person to relent on something that may be important to that person. So even by applying the label a person can in fact become the very same thing.
Judgements and labels, we’re all guilty of using both I’m sure. I’m equally as sure we’ve all been hurt by someone else’s lack of empathy with their use of the English language.
Personally, I think the world would be better off if we all let things roll off our backs a little more often. Live and let live is a great motto to live by. The hardest part in trying to live up to that philosophy though is letting it slide when someone isnt doing that to us. I should, and wished I could, just silently hold my ground. But will I in the future. I can only but try.